This is the first text I am aware of that was against the
practice. The text infers an expectation that most of the women
living with men as agapetae or subintroductae would
not have been 'corrupted'.
From Cyprian
EPISTLE LXI.[4]
TO POMPONIUS, CONCERNING SOME VIRGINS.
Argument.--Cyprian, with some of his colleagues, replies
to his colleague pomponius, that virgins who had determined to maintain their
state with continence and firmness, but who had yet subsequently been found in
the same bed with men, if they were still found to be virgins, should be
received into communion and admitted to the church. But if otherwise, since they
are adulterous towards Christ, they should be compelled to full repentance, and
those who should obstinately persevere should be ejected from the church.
1. Cyprian, Caecilius, Victor, Sedatus, Tertullus, with
the presbyters who were present with them, to Pomponius their brother, greeting.
We have read, dearest brother, your letter which you sent by Paconius our
brother, asking and desiring us to write again to you, and say what we thought
of those virgins who, after having once determined to continue in their
condition, and firmly to maintain their continency, have afterwards been found
to have remained in the same bed side by side with men; of whom you say that one
is a deacon; and yet that the same virgins who have confessed that they have
slept with men declare that they are chaste.[1] Concerning which matters, since
you have desired our advice, know that we do not depart from the traditions of
the Gospel and of the apostles, but with constancy and firmness take counsel for
our brethren and sisters, and maintain the discipline of the Church by all the
ways of usefulness and safety, since the Lord speaks, saying, "And I will
give you pastors according to. mine heart, and they shall feed you with
discipline."[2] And again it is written; "Whoso despiseth discipline
is miserable;[3] and in the Psalms also the Holy Spirit admonishes and instructs
us, saying, "Keep discipline, lest haply the Lord be angry, and ye perish
from the right way, when His anger shall quickly burn against you."[4]
2. In the first place, therefore, dearest brother, both by
overseers and people nothing is to be more eagerly sought after, than that we
who fear God should keep the divine precepts with every observation of
discipline, and should not suffer our brethren to stray, and to live according
to their own fancy and lust;[5] but that we should faithfully consult for the
life of each one, and not stiffer virgins to dwell with men,--I do not say to
sleep together, but to live together[6]--since both their weak sex and their
age, still critical, ought to be bridled in all things and ruled by us, lest an
occasion should be given to the devil who ensnares us, and desires to rage over
us, to hurt them, since the apostle also says, "Do not give place to the
devil."[7] The ship is watchfully to be delivered from perilous places,
that it may not be broken among the rocks and cliffs; the baggage must swiftly
be taken out of the fire, before it is burnt up by the flames reaching it. No
one who is near to danger is long safe, nor will the servant of God be able to
escape the devil if he has entangled himself in the devil's nets. We must
interfere at once with such as these, that they may be separated while yet they
can be separated in innocence; because by and by they will not be able to be
separated by our interference, after they have become joined together by a very
guilty conscience. Moreover, what a number of serious mischiefs we see to have
arisen hence; and what a multitude of virgins we behold corrupted by unlawful
and dangerous conjunctions of this kind, to our great grief of mind! But if they
have faithfully dedicated themselves to Christ, let them persevere in modesty
and chastity, without incurring any evil report, and so in courage and
steadiness await the reward of virginity. But if they are unwilling or unable to
persevere, it is better that they should marry, than that by their crimes they
should fall into the fire. Certainly let them not cause a scandal to the
brethren or sisters, since it is written, "If meat cause my brother to
offend, I will eat no flesh while the world standeth, lest I make my brother to
offend."[8]
3. Nor let any one think that she can be defended by this
excuse, that she may be examined and proved whether she be a virgin; since both
the hands and the eyes of the midwives are often deceived; and if she be found
to be a virgin in that particular in which a woman may be so, yet she may have
sinned in some other part of her body, which may be cor-rupted and yet cannot be
examined. Assuredly the mere lying together, the mere embracing, the very
talking together, and the act of kissing, and the disgraceful and foul slumber
of two persons lying together, how much of dishonour and crime does it confess!
If a husband come upon his wife, and see her lying with another man, is he not
angry and raging, and by the passion of his rage does he not perhaps take his
sword into his hand? And what shall Christ and our Lord and Judge think, when He
sees His virgin, dedicated to Him, and destined for His holiness, lying with
another? How indignant and angry is He, and what penalties does He threaten
against such unchaste connections! whose spiritual sword and the coming day of
judgment, that every one of the brethren may be able to escape, we ought with
all our counsel to provide and to strive. And since it behoves all by all means
to keep discipline,[9]
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much more is it right that overseers and deacons should be
careful for this, that they may afford an example and instruction to others
concerning their conversation and character. For how can they direct the
integrity and continence of others, if the corruptions and teachings of sin
begin to proceed from themselves?
4. And therefore you have acted advisedly and with vigour,
dearest brother, in excommunicating the deacon who has often abode with a
virgin; and, moreover, the others who had been used to sleep with virgins. But
if they have repented of this their unlawful lying together, and have mutually
withdrawn from one another, let the virgins meantime be carefully inspected by
midwives; and if they should be found virgins, let them be received to
communion, and admitted to the Church; yet with this threatening, that if
subsequently they should return to the same men, or if they should dwell
together with the same men in one house or under the same roof, they should be
ejected with a severer censure, nor should such be afterwards easily received
into the Church. But if any one of them be found to be corrupted, let her
abundantly repent, because she who has been guilty of this crime is an
adulteress, not (indeed) against a husband, but against Christ; and therefore, a
due time being appointed, let her afterwards, when confession has been made,
return to the Church. But if they obstinately persevere, and do not mutually
separate themselves, let them know that, with this their immodest obstinacy,
they can never be admitted by us into the Church, lest they should begin to set
an example to others to go to ruin by their crimes. Nor let them think that the
way of life or of salvation is still open to them, if they have refused to obey
the bishops and priests, since in Deuteronomy the Lord God says, "And the
man that will do presumptuously, and will not hearken unto the priest or judge,
whosoever be shall be in those days, that man shall die, and all the people
shall hear and fear, and do no more presumptuously."[1] God commanded those
who did not obey His priests to be slain, and those who did not hearken to His
judges who were appointed for the time. And then indeed they were slain with the
sword, when the circumcision of the flesh was yet in force; but now that
circumcision has begun to be of the spirit among God's faithful servants, the
proud and contumacious are slain with the sword of the Spirit, in that they are
cast out of the Church. For they cannot live out of it, since the house of God
is one, and there can be no salvation to any except in the Church. But the
divine Scripture testifies that the undisciplined perish, because they do not
listen to, nor obey wholesome precepts; for it says, "An undisciplined man
loveth not him that correcteth him. But they who hate reproof shall be consumed
with disgrace."[2]
5. Therefore, dearest brother, endeavour that the
undisciplined should not be consumed and perish, that as much as you can, by
your salutary counsels, you should rule the brotherhood, and take counsel of
each one with a view to his salvation. Strait and narrow is the way through
which we enter into life, but excellent and great is the reward when we enter
into glory. Let those who have once made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of
heaven[3] please God in all things, and not offend God's priests nor the Lord's
Church by the scandal of their wickedness. And if, for the present, certain of
our brethren seem to be made sorry by us, let us nevertheless remain in our
wholesome persuasion, knowing that an apostle also has said, "Am I
therefore become your enemy because I tell you the truth?"[4] But if they
shall obey us, we have gained our brethren, and have formed them as well to
salvation as to dignity by our address. But if some of the perverse persons
refuse to obey, let us follow the same apostle, who says, "If I please men,
I should not be the servant of Christ."[5] If we cannot please some, so as
to make them please Christ, let us assuredly, as far as we can, please Christ
our Lord and God, by observing His precepts. I bid you, brother beloved and much
longed-for. heartily farewell in the Lord.[6]