Could your marriage fail?
Answer the following 20 questions for an assessment.  

The questionnaire is based on John Gottman's seven principles of making marriage work.

Answer true or false for each of the following questions.  If you are feeling brave, get your partner to take the same test and see how you compare

Adapted from "Check into the LOVE LAB"  by Joe Kita.  in Men's Health.  April 2000.  Page 99 - 103

Question 1. I can list my partner's major aspirations and hopes in life True False		Question 2. I know my partner's current major worries True False
Question 3. I know the three most special times in my spouse's life True False		Question 4. I can easily list the three things I most admire about my partner True False
Question 5. I often touch or kiss my spouse affectionately True False		Question 6. Our sex life is generally satisfying True False
Question 7. I look forward to spending my free time with my partner True False		Question 8. My partner is one of my best friends True False
Question 9. My partner tells me when he or she has had a bad day True False		Question 10. I am genuinely interested in my spouse's opinion True False
Question 11. I usually learn a lot from my spouse even when we disagree True False		Question 12. I feel I have an important say when we make decisions True False
Question 13. I can admit when I am wrong True False		Question 14. Even when we disagree I can maintain a sense of humour True False
Question 15. My spouse is good at soothing me when I get upset True False		Question 16. My partner and I are a good team True False
Question 17. When we argue, winning isn't my objective True False		Question 18. I accept there are issues we will never resolve True False
Question 19. We share many similar values in our roles as husband and wife True False		Question 20. We share many happy memories True False

HOW DID YOU SCORE?

Your Score

What your score means:

13 or more:
You have a solid relationship that will probably endure until both of you are toothless and incontinent.  Fortunately you will still be so in love that neither of you will notice

7 to 12:
This is a pivotal time in your relationship.  There are many strengths you can build upon, but there are also some weaknesses that need tending.  It's time to put down that remote and get away for the weekend

6 or less:
You may be in danger of divorce.  If this scares you, you probably still value the relationship enough to try to save it.  Honest discussion is needed.  But if that's not possible, you may want to consult a marriage guidance counsellor.

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